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Various family members (my mom, my MIL, and my SisterIL) all asked me what I wanted for Mother’s Day this year. Honestly, I couldn’t think of anything material that I wanted – or at least want badly enough to ask for. But no matter how much I try to carve out time for writing on teaching days and on non-daycare days, it is never enough. So I had an inspiration and asked for childcare in order to have more time to write instead. And furthermore I asked for at least four days of pre-planned babysitting coverage before the end of May, and to combine this “present” with my birthday gift as well (I turn 40 next week – ugh). 

So today is the first of my ‘gifted’ writing days. SIL is taking care of Buddy this morning (with SG downstairs and available if needed) and my MIL is taking the afternoon shift. We are most nervous about the nap – Buddy goes to sleep without a peep at daycare but it is always a struggle at home. However I am hopeful that with MIL – who has successfully put him to sleep at night several times – he will behave differently then he does with me. 

But I’m trying not to think about that. For today it is not my problem. I’ve left the house and the neighborhood. I drove up to our old neighborhood – the one we lived in for 6 years until I got pregnant and we could no longer afford to live in because we needed a bigger place. I am now in  my very favorite coffee shop working on my introduction (taking a break at the moment to write this post) and drinking too much coffee. This is one of the places where I wrote much of my masters thesis, prepared for my comprehensive exam, and wrote my grant applications. So it is a sight of inspiration and success for me. At least I’m trying to think of it that way.

So far it is great. Best gift ever!

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Progress report, of sorts, on efforts to declutter and do some basic home (re)ordering…

Living Room (aka the Toy PURGE)

In addition to the big bookshelf re-org, SG and I cleared out about 50% of the toys (maybe more) in the livingroom/play area. My parents bring them over, Buddy receives them as gifts and hand-me-downs, and they just seem to proliferate on their own. In any case I took a boatload of crap down to my office and yesterday and today (in an attempt to get my office under control – more on that later), I sorted through them. The smallest pile was made up of toys to hold on to for when he gets a little older or to bring up when we need a fresh or “new” toy. The next pile – a great big box – went back to mom and dad (I put it in the back of my mom’s minivan this morning). The rest I put into bags to take to Goodwill. 

I also brought up some clear storage containers from the basement and sorted out the remaining toys into bins. Big legos, medium legos (he’s still not ready for the regular/little legos), train tracks, “buses” (his word for all vehicles), and animals. Right now the stuffed animals hold court on the back of the couch and although it is not very sophisticated, it works because he does play with them a lot and it is nice for him to be able to locate and retrieve “white bear” or “brown moose” or “boots bear” or whichever of his plush citizens is in favor at the moment.

That’s about it for the moment. I’ve also made some progress on the kitchen and dining area, but I hope to do some more this week and post some photos. In any case, my slow – glacially slow – battle to organize our lives is progressing….

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Tuesday, nap time. Buddy is still in his jammies after a busy morning playing with nana at our house. He’s sacked out on “the big bed” – the place he dreams of sleeping all the time. He is, however, always denied this dream at bedtime – poor kid!

I did get almost everything done for my class but yesterday morning I came home after dropping Buddy off at daycare and went back to bed for a couple of hours. Such is the price for staying up until 12:30 am writing a lecture for class (not to mention grading – oh the humanity). Staying up so late really doesn’t work if you have to get up between 3-4:30 and convince your toddler to go back to sleep until 5:30 or so. 

Tuesday is no day care so this morning was a lost cause work-wise. Buddy and I did some painting and then spent some time playing hide-and-seek in the “big bed” amongst all the pillows. 

Tomorrow however, I will do my (at least) an hour’s worth of work on the diss first thing in the morning. Which means that tonight I need to finish the discussion handout and preview the films I got from the library. I can’t believe how fast this month is going. I’m feeling that familiar sense of panic in my stomach – it is always there but now it is stronger. I’m coming to realize that I need to finish the diss not only to get a job, but because I want to know what it is like to not have this constant feeling of dread and low-grade panic with me all the freaking time. I’m coming to the conclusion that I will have no peace in my life until it is done.

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I haven’t had any time to sit down to write about my next steps in following the program in Confessions of an Organized Homemaker but I have been busy continuing to declutter and to apply her next “Basic Organizing Principle”: GROUP. 

A few excerpts:

Whenever practical, group and store like items together…The main purpose of grouping is to give everything in your home a well-defined place. If you have a family, this is paramount! Without well-defined, specific places for everything, your family will only have a vague idea of where things belong. They will put things back haphazardly, and you’ll have to look for them when you need them…Have you noticed what a mess people can make when thy’re looking for something? Giving things a well-defined place makes it possible to find things before they are in disarray.

This is SUCH a huge problem for us. SG is the KING of picking things up and using them and then just putting them down again wherever when he is done. And I do it too (although not as much). He is constantly asking me where stuff is (it drives me nuts) and we are both constantly pawing through piles of clothing and boxes of toys and so forth, looking for things. 

So in addition to decluttering, I am going to try to think about grouping and keeping the idea of “well-defined, well-confined” in mind for the next week.

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Nana's Castle

Nana's Castle

We’ve been at Nana and Pappa’s (my parents) for the last few days. It is a great place to be a kid – particularly a grandkid – great toys, an art table, play doh galore and lots of doting attention. Check out the castle sitting on the niche in front of the big picture window!  Now that’s hard to beat.

Plus Buddy got to hang out with his cousins (my nieces) Belle and Zippy (ages 7 and 3 respectively). But there is no internet there and with all the toddler wrangling I had no time to get anything done, so I just tried to relax for a few days and relish the fact that I decided at the last minute NOT to attend the big academic conference in my field this year. I just couldn’t deal with it – especially after both those interviews and then not getting either job. I didn’t want to be away from Buddy that long and I have some time off this week so I need to get ready for teaching and get some writing done on the next chapter. So I unplugged for a few days and just played with the kids and hung out with my parents. SuperGuy enjoyed it too, although his cat allergies make being around my parent’s Persian an ordeal. 

Now we are home and we continue to celebrate Buddy’s second birthday (it’s a week-long celebration). This morning we did all the stuff he likes. We went up to the cupcake place and sat in the kiddy chairs and shared a carrot cupcake with cream cheese frosting and drank water. Then we went over to a local fountain and threw pennies in it. At which point we needed some milk so we walked over to the grocery store and let him push around one of the toy-carts they so thoughtfully provide. Despite his tendency to ram into things (both accidently and on purpose), no cases of wine were destroyed. Finally we went down to the dock and had fish and chips (which is something we do together every other week or so). Now we are home and he is exhausted and sleeping and I think that I’m going to treat myself to a nap as well.

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